Several years ago the Southampton Press picked up on the angry mumblings of local residents after a particularly nasty summer season had come to an end.  The Press claimed that residents were going to publish a handbook on 'manners in the Hamptons.'  While no one actually wanted to publish anything, there was some discussion about ways to get summer visitors, as differentiated from summer homeowners (who actually do care about their community) to appreciate the historic value and natural beauty of our hamlets.

Without chastising anyone in particular, it does seem as though many could adopt a more Aspen-like laid back attitude. Some thoughts for those in overdrive...

1. Be nice.

2. Slow down on the roads. No need to drive 55mph on Ocean Road when the speed limit is 35mph.

3. Allow fellow drivers to make a left turn onto Montauk Highway.  There's no reason to speed up to cut off a car turning from Mecox Road. Slow down and let them in.

4. Do not beep if the driver in front of you is crawling across the Sagg Pond bridge. It's a beautiful spot and they are enjoying the view.

5. Do not scream at the owner of McNamara's when your gold card is rejected. She can't help you... but she can direct you to the well-priced 2001 Domaine de la Romanée-Conti.